Don’t Allow People and Circumstances Control Your Life:

Do you allow people and circumstances control your life, moods, and state of mind?

How do you feel, if your boss criticizes your work, or tells you something you don’t like?

How do you react, when a driver enters recklessly, and without signaling, into your lane, in front of your car?

In these and similar situations, do you, keep thinking about the incident? Do you get angry, unhappy or frustrated?

This happens to almost everybody, almost everyday. Just think, how many minutes, and often hours, you spend every day, dwelling on what this person said and that person did. If you take these incidents too personally you become unfocused and inefficient at work, at home, at everywhere else.

We let people and circumstances control our life, if we let them affect our moods and state of mind.

This happens at home, school, college, work, at the mall, on the street, and everywhere else.

We don’t always have control over circumstances and situations. This is how life is.

We don’t have control over people words, and we don’t have control over people’s behavior, but we can teach ourselves to react differently.

We don’t have control over everything that happens to us, but we can learn to act and react, emotionally and mentally, in a different way. We can learn to choose our reactions and behavior. We can learn to remain detached and unaffected.

• How can we avoid negative reactions, anger, and dwelling on hurts?
• How can we stop taking too personally what someone said?
• How can we stop behaving like a puppet on a string, letting people and circumstances pull our strings?

There are several solutions.

There are several things you can do, when you are in one of the above-mentioned situations, which can help you loosen the effect of people and circumstances on you. These are first-aid steps, and some of them are well known:

1. Breathing deeply a few times, before reacting.
2. Trying to replace your thoughts with positive thoughts.
3. Relaxing your body.

List of website that motivates you

1.http://www.wikihow.com/Get-Motivated

2.http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-13042/6-tips-to-get-motivated-when-youre-feeling-depressed.html

3.https://zenhabits.net/get-off-your-butt-16-ways-to-get-motivated-when-youre-in-a-slump/

4.http://www.how-to-self.com/get-motivated/

5.https://sidsavara.com/motivation/how-to-get-motivated-tips

Failure is not ending point video clip

Inspiring video on persevering no matter how many times you have failed in life.

This video mentions well known people who had failed, but kept pressing on until they became successful. Those People are:

Michael Jordan
After being cut from his high school basketball team, he went home locked himself in his room and cried.

Albert Einstein
He wasn't able to speak until he was almost 4 years old and his teachers said he would "never amount to much"

Oprah Winfrey
Was demoted from her job as a news anchor because she... "Wasn't fit for television."

Walt Disney
Fired from a newspaper for "lacking imagination" and "having no original ideas"...

Lionel Messi
At age 11 he was cut from his team after being diagnosed with a growth hormone deficiency... which made him smaller in stature than most kids his age.

Steve Jobs
At 30 years old he was left devastated and depressed after being unceremoniously removed from the company he started.

Eminem
A High School dropout, whose personal struggles with drugs and poverty culminated in an unsuccessful suicide attempt...

Thomas Edison
A teacher told him he was... "Too stupid to learn anything" and that he should go into a field where he might succeed by virtue of his pleasant personality.

The Beatles
Rejected by Decca Recording studios, who said "we don't like their sound"... "They have no future in show business"

Dr. Zeuss
His First Book Was Rejected By 27 Publishers.

Abraham Lincoln
His Fiancé Died, Failed In Business, Had A Nervous Breakdown And Was Defeated In 8 Elections.

Ending Quote
"If you've Never Failed, You've Never Tried Anything New"

How to overcome failure?

 

“Fall seven times. Stand up eight.” — Japanese Proverb

Failure hurts. To put it mildly, it’s a painful experience, one that many of us work tirelessly to avoid. Often, its effects can be long-lasting, leaving a mark in our minds, and creating a mental hurdle that can be difficult to overcome in later years.

But failure is also necessary.

When we fail, we tend to ponder, searching for new meaning to our lives, exploring the potential for possible answers and solutions for achieving our goals. In fact, failure is a crucial part of goal achievement. It acts as life’s guiding light and as mother nature’s chisel, playing an important role in improving each subsequent iteration and generation of life.

But as much as we can reason about the importance of failure, when we’re going through it, it’s hard to see the forest through the trees. It’s hard to overcome failure to achieve our goals when all we can see is pain and agony.

I’ve experienced my share of monumental failures. I know just how much it hurts to fail and to do it on a massive scale. Failure certainly left its mark on my life, and it wasn’t a simple matter of picking off the bloodied scar. The healing took time. But through it all, I came to some important realizations, much the same that other people do after pushing through failure.

I also came to realize that there are many ways to overcome failure and achieve your goals. However, all them require a major mental shift in thinking. It requires a certain way of looking at things in your life, and steering your thoughts in the right direction while sowing the seeds of success to reap the rewards at a later date.

Here are 5 ways that you can overcome failure in your own life to achieve your goals.


 


1. Look at it as a chance to face down your fears

Sometimes, it isn’t even the failure itself that scares people; it’s the fear of failing that holds them back from doing something. But, overcoming failure is also a chance to face down your fears. It’s a chance to overcome that innate desire to run far away and cower in some corner.

The pain-pleasure paradigm is very real. We will always do more to avoid pain than we will to gain pleasure. But, when we can leverage that knowledge and overcome our fears to achieve our goals, a transformational shift occurs. There’s an incredible feeling that goes along with it, and it’s an invaluable experience to pave the way for a lifetime of achieving goals.

2. Use failure as a learning experience

When we fail, it should be a chance to learn from our mistakes. When we can use that knowledge, put it behind our belts, and push forward, some tremendous things can happen. There are a number of ways we can actually learn from the failure, but in order to do so, we need to look at the failure objectively, like an outsider looking in.

Ask yourself why you failed. Where did you go wrong? What could you have done differently? Was it your plan? Was it because you failed to see something you should have seen? Did a bad habit do you in? Really look at it objectively and learn from it. Use that knowledge to improve yourself and try again. As long as you don’t give up, you can always overcome failure to achieve your goals.

How to get success?

 
 1. Focus your energy. Learning how to direct your energy towards your most rewarding tasks is crucial for achieving high levels of success. One of the biggest mistakes that many people make is directing their energy towards low-valued tasks. Take a look at everything you have going on right now in your life.  Pay close attention and ask yourself what the high-valued tasks are -- the ones that have the potential to bring the most reward to you and your business.

2.  Ability to prioritize. Think of what is your most important goal right this moment. If you had to pick one goal that would make everything else in your life tick, this is it. High achievers never lose sight of what their major goal is. Every day, do something that will inch you closer to the achievement of your main goal.

3. Can project and complete tasks. Being able to start something and follow through until it's completed is a key to long-term success.Picture yourself completely finishing your projects and tasks. Take note of how you feel visualizing yourself getting the job done. The more you can picture yourself following through and completing important tasks, the more determined you will be to actually do so. 

4. Having a PMA. To be successful, you need to have a positive mental attitude, or PMA. If you do nothing about negative thoughts, chances are you will be settling for average. Instead, you need to continually feed your mind with positive thoughts.

A great percentage of successful people have all experienced some sort of setback or failure. They could have just stopped their journey right there and called it quits. Instead, they had a positive mental attitude about themselves and their abilities, which gave them the power needed to continue along and reach their goals. Creating this sort of attitude could be one of your most important habits that you end up incorporating on a daily basis. 

No matter where you are in life, there is always more to reach for.  When you constantly strive to become a better person, refine your skill set and invest in your future daily, you become more as an individual. When you become more as an individual, your value increases.  The more your value increases, the more successful you will become -- and it all starts with your habits.