Facts

Don’t Allow People and Circumstances Control Your Life:

Do you allow people and circumstances control your life, moods, and state of mind?

How do you feel, if your boss criticizes your work, or tells you something you don’t like?

How do you react, when a driver enters recklessly, and without signaling, into your lane, in front of your car?

In these and similar situations, do you, keep thinking about the incident? Do you get angry, unhappy or frustrated?

This happens to almost everybody, almost everyday. Just think, how many minutes, and often hours, you spend every day, dwelling on what this person said and that person did. If you take these incidents too personally you become unfocused and inefficient at work, at home, at everywhere else.

We let people and circumstances control our life, if we let them affect our moods and state of mind.

This happens at home, school, college, work, at the mall, on the street, and everywhere else.

We don’t always have control over circumstances and situations. This is how life is.

We don’t have control over people words, and we don’t have control over people’s behavior, but we can teach ourselves to react differently.

We don’t have control over everything that happens to us, but we can learn to act and react, emotionally and mentally, in a different way. We can learn to choose our reactions and behavior. We can learn to remain detached and unaffected.

• How can we avoid negative reactions, anger, and dwelling on hurts?
• How can we stop taking too personally what someone said?
• How can we stop behaving like a puppet on a string, letting people and circumstances pull our strings?

There are several solutions.

There are several things you can do, when you are in one of the above-mentioned situations, which can help you loosen the effect of people and circumstances on you. These are first-aid steps, and some of them are well known:

1. Breathing deeply a few times, before reacting.
2. Trying to replace your thoughts with positive thoughts.
3. Relaxing your body.